Happiness Articles

Learning how to find happiness can certainly be a lifelong journey. But that does not mean you'll never know how to be happy long-term. It's simply a process like anything else, with peaks and valleys. But the reward can be a more consistent ride and finding a flow with less extreme highs and lows.

How to Find Happiness in Yourself

by Jared Akers

Finding happiness within ourselves is the ultimate goal. Only then are we able to experience long-lasting happiness and the key to how to be happy.

The main benefit of finding happiness within ourselves is; it is not contingent on any outside source.

To find happiness in yourself is to discover happiness that is resilient to circumstances and external forces in your life.

For most, an inner-peace and happiness that can stand the test of despair and loss sounds unimaginable. Think of the amazing sense of security and comfort that would come with the ability to match calamity with serenity.

Emotions are Neither Good nor Bad, They’re Just Emotions

To find happiness in yourself, one must think about emotional maturity. The ability to realistically evaluate one’s emotions is vital to determining what can be done, or not, when it comes to experiences that may bring us unhappiness.

“Emotions are Neither Good nor Bad, They’re Just Emotions.” – Click to Tweet

Here’s an example. [Read more…]

Want Happiness? Be Happy Now!

by Jared Akers

Want happiness?
Suspend judgment in your heart of others as well as yourself

I heard those exact words the other day from someone.

It made me wonder, is that it? Is the key to happiness suspending judgment?

I wish it was that easy… just suspending judgment. Like it’s a switch we can flip off. Learning, and yes we can learn, to suspend judgment is a long and difficult process. It starts with building a healthy relationship with ourselves so that we need less external sources to build us up. I’ve been working on it for years, yet I still catch myself passing judgment. The difference is I catch it and try to adjust my perspective and remember where I came from. Often, I recite the prayer “God, bless them, change me.”

How To Be Happy Now!

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Finding Happiness after Divorce: A Child’s Quest

by Jared Akers

The following article was written by my lovely wife Emily. She shares her perspective of her parents divorce as a child and how she eventually found happiness.

Emily’s Decent: A quest for happiness following divorce

Happiness after divorce seemed impossible to me. At ten years of age I witnessed my parents split, in that, they traded a verbally and physically abusive relationship for an even more confusing competition for my five siblings and my attentions. Christmas was a fairytale times two. Who could outshine who with more presents? Sadly it was lost on six lonely, confused children who just wanted the non-stop fighting to stop. For good.

I should be happy now, as, I have wished for this my entire childhood. But learning how to find happiness from divorce would take many years. I have no warm fuzzy memories tucked away of the love I am certain they once thought to be real. I planned for this and warned my younger brothers and sister of the impending divorce. How could I find happiness now that my father, whom was the “fun” part of growing up, was no longer a resident? I watched my Mother suffer her inability to find peace with her decision to end a treacherous marriage. My Father quickly found his soul-mate much to my Mothers dismay. I witnessed a lot of hand holding and laughter. My new Mother was so positive and beautiful. I longed to grasp onto their thread of contentment. All I found was the bitterness and loss my Mother fostered, like a small child’s worn, threadbare blanket. How would I get to a place where the sunshine brightened my face? [Read more…]

Live and Let Live: 9 Ways of Letting Go

by Jared Akers

Recently I was involved in a discussion on the topic of Live and Let Live. The term live and let live can be viewed in several ways, but basically it means letting go and stop trying to control others. Let them live their lives just as you want to live yours. Guess it’s sort of back to the golden rule.

I think the Free Dictionary sums it up nicely, “to accept other people as they are, although they may have a different way of life”

The first thing that comes to my mind when I hear someone say “live and let live” is the song “Live and Let Die” by Gun’s and Rose’s. I know it was originally performed by Paul McCartney and Wings for the James Bond film, but that’s where my head goes. But the next place it goes is the Serenity Prayer:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

For me, this prayer and mindset can be used in almost any situation. So my list of 9 ways could simply be, say this prayer 9 times. But that’s too easy, so here’s a list of ways you can practice live and let live: [Read more…]

The Best Kept Secret to Finding Happiness

by Jared Akers

The hardest thing about finding happiness is that you can’t so to speak…. happiness is a by-product of living the right kind of life. Happiness is the result of living a life which is inline with your ideal self. So how do you know what your ideal self is? That question is not so easy to answer. But there is a way to get there!

Finding one’s ideal self must come from emotional maturity and most often through a life of finding out what happiness is NOT about. From my experience, a moral compass and “gut” leading me towards my ideal self, was the result of hard work and dedication. It took me years to get what I felt on the inside inline with what I was showing on the outside.

If you are truly in touch with your inner-self, emotionally mature, and know what you want in life; you have realized true inner-peace and happiness cannot be bought or sold. [Read more…]