It’s something you cling to when you’re afraid of moving outside your comfort zone.
I know. I lived on hope for years. Consequently, nothing really amazing ever happened in my life.
Well, nothing good amazing.
Before you get all hope is all we have on me, think about this…
- Are you hoping for a better job?
- Are you hoping to be rich?
- Are you hoping to find a perfect life partner?
- Are you hoping someone doesn’t discover the real you?
My guess is you answered yes to at least one of those things. The question is; what are you doing about it?
I hoped for a long time that I could be happy, that I would be successful, rich, and live the life I thought everyone else had but me. But I continued to live a life that wasn’t… well, I just knew I could do better. I hoped someday I could.
Then one day I hit bottom. OK, it didn’t happen in a day, it was more of a slow fade. But the moment of clarity was pretty sudden – in a moment – and the epiphany was clear:
Hoping for a better me wasn’t cutting it. I had to take some action.
So I killed myself.
I gave up hope and slaughtered my ego.
Everything that was me had to go. I stepped out into the world like a peeled tomato. Raw.
Yet something amazing happened.
It was like winning the lottery. I no longer cared about how I was perceived by others; e.g. a strong happy person, having my shit together, etc. I just knew I needed help on how to be happy with me and how to find joy and satisfaction with life.
I let go of any hope that I could be happy in the future and concentrated on what actions I could take each day to feel proud about myself. I threw hope out the door and took action.
Hope Isn’t Free
Hope costs us our dreams. We cling to hope because if we try and fail we’re left with nothing. Yet if all we ever do is hope, we accomplish nothing. We certainly don’t fulfill our dreams.
Certainly there are times when hope gets us through tough times; the hope that things will get better. But is that really hope? Or is it a belief? The realization that all things pass and that we know times will get better.
Hoping is easy, taking action and getting outside your comfort zone is difficult. It’s difficult for a reason because that’s where the magic happens. And once you learn how to deal with discomfort, you can master the universe!
So challenge yourself today to do something that’s uncomfortable. Take some action towards a dream, stop hoping and start doing!