This is a guest post by Rita in which she provides us with some simple and practical ways to cultivate happiness in our lives. Rita is an aspiring author, mentor and editor of Snubbr. Rita is currently writing a book on simple, practical ways to cultivate inner peace. Thanks Rita!
If there’s one common goal amongst the vast majority of us who are living on earth it is to be happy. Everyone wants to live their lives to their fullest, experiencing all their wishes and dreams coming true right before their eyes.
Unfortunately dreams don’t always come true in real life, but with a happiness plan, you can be sure that whatever does unfold before you, you are making the most of it and living each day to your best.
Often people will state that they are very unhappy, yet never do much in the way of assessing what they can do to change their status and find the true happiness they seek. They hope that their everyday actions will just eventually have them stumbling upon happiness, yet much of the time don’t even know what ‘happiness’ represents to them.
Creating your very own happiness plan is the best way to change this and get your life headed in the right direction.
Here is what you need to know.
Assess Your Biggest Happiness-Drainers
The very first thing you must do if you are to achieve happiness is identify what happiness drainers you have in your life. These are the things that always make you feel tired after doing them, really sucking the life out of you.
This could be a career you’re stuck in but don’t enjoy, a personal relationship situation that you aren’t completely satisfied with, or a to-do list that overwhelms you considerably and never seems to back down.
These items are going to take away from the positive energy you have in your life and really send negative vibes to your overall level of happiness. If you can do something to change them in some way, you will be better off because of it.
Identify When You Are ‘In Flow’
Next, you also should look at times when you are in what’s referred to as ‘flow‘. This is a period of time when you are entirely immersed in what you’re doing. At that point nothing else matters and all you’re focusing on is the exact thing you are doing at that moment – it is total focus and concentration with no outside distractions getting in.
This is most often found in personal hobbies that we really enjoy and prefer to spend our spare time doing, only sadly, most of us don’t make nearly enough time to pursue these activities as we should. If you can start reversing that and incorporating these activities into your life more regularly, happiness will follow.
Consider Happiness Found In Letting Go
Many of us hold things inside of ourselves. This could be negative emotions, negative self-beliefs, negative energy, or negative behavior patterns. We hold these deep inside ourselves, protecting them so others cannot judge us by them and never letting them escape.
Freeing yourself from these things by letting go is one large thing you can do to boost the levels of happiness you have. When you can let go, freedom will be yours and you’ll finally come to enjoy life like you’ve been wanting.
Spend More Time With Your-Kind-Of-Happy People
Finally, the last step in creating your own plan of happiness is to fill your life full of people who help you create your own happiness. These are people who have similar life goals and principles to yourself who will add to your life rather than taking away from it.
Make note that you may come across individuals who are relatively friendly and fine to be around, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they will help you achieve maximum happiness. These individuals may drain you of energy, perhaps not even intentionally, but they do.
Take an assessment of all the people in your life right now and look at the ones where spending time with them makes you feel energized and excited and the ones where you feel drained and tired afterwards.
While you may not need to cut those drainers out entirely, aim to spend more time with those who do energize you and you’ll feel happier and more fulfilled on a day to day basis.
So be sure you take some time right now to come up with your own plan for happiness. Don’t let life pass you by without ever realizing what you truly can accomplish.
photo credit: Pensiero