Want happiness?
Suspend judgment in your heart of others as well as yourself
I heard those exact words the other day from someone.
It made me wonder, is that it? Is the key to happiness suspending judgment?
I wish it was that easy… just suspending judgment. Like it’s a switch we can flip off. Learning, and yes we can learn, to suspend judgment is a long and difficult process. It starts with building a healthy relationship with ourselves so that we need less external sources to build us up. I’ve been working on it for years, yet I still catch myself passing judgment. The difference is I catch it and try to adjust my perspective and remember where I came from. Often, I recite the prayer “God, bless them, change me.”
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People often ask me how to find happiness or how to be happy? So I created this site.
If you sign up you can get my free report, How To Be Happy Now: Finding Happiness in Everyday Living.” Actually, it’s more of a short 14 page eBook (but report “sounds” good since it’s free). I spent a lot of time on it and would really appreciate some feedback. My wife thinks I’m crazy for giving it away for free, as much time as I spent on it. So sign up to my newsletter and get your free report! And don’t worry about signing up, I’m not going to resell your information and I promise I won’t send you a bunch of crap you’re not interested in.
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Thanks so much for this. I can’t wait to read it as I always find your blogs so inspirational and a great reminder of how we can let go and find some inner peace.
Much peace and love in 2010!
Kim
You’re welcome Kim. Much peace and love to you in 10 as well! I know it’s going to be a great year, starting with a great day today!
I’ll definitely give it a read and let you know my thoughts on it. I already know it will be great though
Thanks Chelle!
Did a quick read, I’m a tough audience since I like the Dalai Lama’s The Art of Finding Happiness and anything by Eckhart Tolle which I think is all about finding contentment in this mixed bag of a world.
You might want to check out an April workshop at the Kripalu Center in Lennox that is about getting spiritual work published, I can’t remember the name of the guy but he’s been doing it for years, he’s associated with Caroline Myss who also presents there.
Carol,
Thanks for the suggestions! I appreciate it!
I really liked this. as always you are able to put wonderful words to the topic. I can’t beat it so I won’t try…I’ll make life easy and send them all your way. you have a wonderful New Year..LadyJ
Thanks Jacki! You’re the best! Here’s to an amazing 2010!
Hi Jared,
Congratulations on the new site and e-book! I read through it and it is obvious that you put all of your heart and soul into it.
Thanks Nadia, that means a lot coming from you!
You are welcome, Jared. It is always obvious (at least to me) when someone writes from the heart or from the head. I tend to value writing that comes from the heart and it is was obvious that you put your whole heart into this book. Good for you!
Hi Jared. I just wanted to say thanks for writing this ebook. Usually I don’t like to read articles that then point to opening up a PDF in order to leave a comment. But after reading this report, I’m glad I did so.
It was very nice of you to tell us about your life story, starting from when you were a zookeeper at twenty-two years old. I’m about go into my mid-twenties soon (turning twenty-four soon), and I don’t know why and I don’t who you are, but most of the earlier life you’ve described was something that I related to.
These things include being in a stage of life where everything seems confusing, where it seems happiness can only be found through temporary satisfactions, and where sometimes “escaping” from life sounds better than living everyday chasing a fantasy that makes us miserable.
Your words have touched me, especially on the lessons of love, purpose, and gratitude. It’s nice to be in a cozy room with the heater on; it’s nice to be able to look outside the window and see the blue skies, hearing the birds chirping and flying around; it’s nice to have strawberries and slices of apples downstairs to eat; and finally, it’s nice to be alive.
Happiness is around us. I think you just be really conscious of the moment your in order to unlock it; but it’s there, and it’s waiting for you to do so.
Thanks for writing this and inspiring me. I’m sorry for making this comment longer than usual. And I’m happy I somehow stumbled across this post before noon. It’s going to make the rest of my day happier. Have a good day.
Hulbert,
Great stuff man! Thank you so much for commenting about my ebook. I think you really nailed it, “Happiness is around us. I think you just be really conscious of the moment your in order to unlock it; but it’s there, and it’s waiting for you to do so.” That’s awesome! “it’s waiting for you to do so!” You’re so right. We just have to wake up and be present to it! That’s where gratitude comes in, it makes us become more present to the moment and the ability to recognize things around us.
Thanks!
also read a similar thing about fear (on which you did a recent blog) ie that fear is the opposite of love as it’s ‘self’ focused constrictive, all about protecting ‘me’… (hence selfish fundamentally)…whereas love and reaching outside yourself (and judging and fearing less) is more about opening your heart and focusing on helping someone else….i think that is key: when feeling fearful and judgemental, ask ‘What can I do to help someone in some way?’ No wonder that many find volunteering and taking on a leadership role to be both liberating (from unreal fears and constricting judging) but also empowering in feeling good and socially connected.
Joe,
Thanks for the comment. I try and look at others who I feel a judgment starting to form as teaching me something about myself. It’s natural to feel judgmental at times; as the goal is to harbor no judgment at all. One of the great lessons of practicing self-love and acceptance, is the ability to love and accept others more freely.
related to the above a very powerful phrase I came across was : ‘God, please let me fear and judge less …to be able to love more’….a positive and powerful affirmation I must use to engage more often when I can close down and feel unnecessarily constricted and overly cautious.
Joe,
Well said, “God, please let me fear and judge less …to be able to love more.” I use something similar when I find myself agitated or bothered with someone, “God, bless them change me.”