Deflecting is a good tactic, but if they insist I think there may be a few other things to consider. Most importantly, how emotionally mature is the person we’re dealing with here. My wife for instance, is often the one telling me that “you’re not responsible for other peoples emotions.” Because I have a tendency to want people to like me, not as much anymore, but it’s something I still struggle with. So I try and avoid saying things that may hurt someone’s feelings, and/or lie or make something up. Like if someone asks me out to lunch or coffee and I’d really rather not, instead of making up an excuse I can just so “no” and not give a reason. In the case of my wife asking about her butt, I would be honest, because I know she loves herself firstly and that I love her unconditionally. I think my wife is gorgeous and I tell her that, but there are some things she’ll try on and I just tell her, “too old lady” or “it makes you look frumpy.” But I also tell her when a pair of jeans she’s wearing makes her butt look great as well! That’s always important to remember; noting when they’ve done something different with their hair, wearing a different perfume, or a new pair of shoes. This also carry’s over into other aspects of life also. Noticing when people have done something different and need validation that it’s working. Thanks again for stopping by and commenting.