Comments on: Pain or Pleasure, What’s Your Payoff? http://jaredakers.com/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/ Happiness for the Practical Mind Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:05:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jared http://jaredakers.com/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1060 Jared Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:32:09 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2010/01/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1060 Nadia, Funny, that's been my experience also ;-) "the best blessing is not getting what you want." Nadia,
Funny, that’s been my experience also ;-) “the best blessing is not getting what you want.”

]]> By: Nadia - Happy Lotus http://jaredakers.com/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1059 Nadia - Happy Lotus Sun, 24 Jan 2010 14:00:50 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2010/01/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1059 Hi Jared, One of the greatest lessons I have learned from my spiritual journey is that whatever the outcome is of any given situation it is in my best interest. It took me a long time to make peace with that because I used to get really upset if something did not work out as I wanted. I then realized that sometimes the best blessing is not getting what you want. Having faith means trusting that whatever you are experiencing, you are going through it for a reason. Hi Jared,

One of the greatest lessons I have learned from my spiritual journey is that whatever the outcome is of any given situation it is in my best interest. It took me a long time to make peace with that because I used to get really upset if something did not work out as I wanted.

I then realized that sometimes the best blessing is not getting what you want. Having faith means trusting that whatever you are experiencing, you are going through it for a reason.

]]> By: Jared http://jaredakers.com/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1058 Jared Fri, 22 Jan 2010 21:54:46 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2010/01/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1058 Melissa, You nailed it, we sure do get a lot of mileage out of being the victim. I like to leave justified anger up to those more qualified. I've discovered through the years that justified or not, it's just not worth it; not to mention my "thinker" is often a bit biased when it comes to determining what is and isn't justified. Absolutely we get something out of continued suffering. Justification or validation. I have a spiritual coach/adviser that tells me I have to set a limit on the time I need to mourn or feel sadness for something. Sure its different for everything and traumatic events can be hard to handle, but at some point, I turn a corner and choose to be in suffering. As the saying goes, "Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional." Thanks for leaving a comment today! Melissa,
You nailed it, we sure do get a lot of mileage out of being the victim. I like to leave justified anger up to those more qualified. I’ve discovered through the years that justified or not, it’s just not worth it; not to mention my “thinker” is often a bit biased when it comes to determining what is and isn’t justified.

Absolutely we get something out of continued suffering. Justification or validation. I have a spiritual coach/adviser that tells me I have to set a limit on the time I need to mourn or feel sadness for something. Sure its different for everything and traumatic events can be hard to handle, but at some point, I turn a corner and choose to be in suffering. As the saying goes, “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.”

Thanks for leaving a comment today!

]]> By: Melissa http://jaredakers.com/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1057 Melissa Fri, 22 Jan 2010 21:43:06 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2010/01/pain-or-pleasure-whats-your-payoff/#comment-1057 Thanks for this, it's something most of us don't want to admit is possible. "Do you mean there's a part of me that gets something out of this suffering?" It's absolute anathema to most of us to even consider such a thing. But it's so true! Your post gave me a little wake up call today when I read it. Whoah, he's right, I do sometimes hang on to feeling victimized/left out/ignored because it makes me feel righteously angry (righteousness is a wonderful feeling, in a way!) and lets me off the hook about doing my part to maintain relationships and embody my life with power and strength. Thanks for this little jolt of wisdom! -Melissa Thanks for this, it’s something most of us don’t want to admit is possible. “Do you mean there’s a part of me that gets something out of this suffering?” It’s absolute anathema to most of us to even consider such a thing. But it’s so true!

Your post gave me a little wake up call today when I read it. Whoah, he’s right, I do sometimes hang on to feeling victimized/left out/ignored because it makes me feel righteously angry (righteousness is a wonderful feeling, in a way!) and lets me off the hook about doing my part to maintain relationships and embody my life with power and strength.

Thanks for this little jolt of wisdom!

-Melissa

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