Comments on: Live and Let Live: 9 Ways of Letting Go

By: Jared

Jared — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:27:23 +0000

Karen,
Hope all is well with you. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I’ve always like the saying, “I’d rather be happy then right.” And when it comes to accepting others, I found it works best only after I’ve learned the hard process of accepting myself. Live and let live!

By: Karen

Karen — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:18:34 +0000

I was just having a conversation with someone the other day on this topic… I asked my friend what her secret is because she is one of the sweetest people I know. She replied, “Be kind to everyone, and accept people exactly the way they are.” It sounds so simple, yet really struck me. If we all were only that non-judgmental and accepting of each other… faults and all… the world would be such a better place. Live, and let live. Thanks for the reminder of a beutiful phase to live by.

Karen

By: Jared

Jared — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:02:13 +0000

Hey Rocky, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment. Ahh, heated arguments at work… who has those? JK. I use that technique often. As I live more inline with my highest ideals of myself, I find I need to be validated less and less by insisting that my “idea” or project is the best choice.

You make a good point about listening as well. My struggle is with silencing the voice in my head that is building the comment or comeback before the person is done talking.

By: Rocky | R O C K O N O V A.COM

Rocky | R O C K O N O V A.COM — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:51:24 +0000

“I’d rather be happy then right.”

Thats a great quote =) Definitely something to think about if Im at work and find myself in a heated argument.

“Be Understanding Rather Than Understood”

I really like that line too. Listening is one of the most effective ways to have healthier relationships with people.

By: Jared

Jared — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:35:58 +0000

Greg,
Thanks for the comments. It is amazing isn’t it, how we learn so many life lessons after the fact? I guess that’s why the saying goes, “more will be revealed later.” I see now the value in all the things I’ve gone through. I had to do a million things perfectly wrong to get to the exact moment I’m at now. And that moment is amazingly blessed. The work comes in continuing to stay in each moment the best I can, learning to accept the consequences of being myself, and finding gratitude in each and every day. I’ll keep a look out for your cause for mental health awareness/suicide prevention. That always touches something close to me, as there was definitely a time in my life where that was a real option. I can understand how the thought of just giving up seems like the easier softer way. I for one do everything in my power to not get back to that place again, I’m not sure I could make the same decision again. But that also gives me a greater appreciation for life and sure helps not sweating the small stuff.

“When I hear somebody sigh, ‘life is hard’ I’am always tempted to ask, compared to what?”
- Sydney Harris

Thanks for stopping by.

By: Greg Montgomery

Greg Montgomery — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:18:05 +0000

Good stuff, Jared.
I actually played 9 yrs in the NFL while suffering from a bevy of afflictions. In addition to the normal NFL “wear and tear” issues (ie soreness/fatigue/anxiety), I played my whole career w/ a broken back and torn labrum in my hip. Now add bipolar disorder/ADD/depression/drug and alcohol abuse…..interesting journey.
I feel you are right on the money. It’s funny, I actually wrote a thesis on “The Art of Punting” which includes just about every point you make in this article….”In order to gain control, we must first let go”. Too bad I didn’t know it when I was playing football (another story).
Please be on the lookout for my cause for mental health awareness/suicide prevention once my team decides on the correct moniker. I’m on Facebook, Twitter, LinkIn as well.
Stay strong – G

PS – I see your a fan of WD. Nice. Very wise man.

By: Nadia - Happy Lotus

Nadia - Happy Lotus — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 12:57:57 +0000

Hi Jared,

Learning to let go is one of the hardest things I have had to learn to do. When I started my spiritual journey many years ago, it felt like pulling teeth. With time and many experiences, I learned that the best thing I can do is to give any situation my best and let go of the outcome. As long as I did my best, then there is no need to be concerned or to worry or to have regrets. There is no need to control or make something happen. Just give you all to the moment and the rest takes care of itself. If something is good for you and meant to be…it will happen. And if it is not, then that is awesome too.

By: Jared

Jared — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:31:50 +0000

Heather,
I use this technique myself with great success. “Then I can feel, for the moment anyway, I have done all I can. If there is anything else I need to do – my higher power will let me know.” Well said.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:40:19 +0000

I have found it helpful especially when I am trying to find a way to “fix it” or “control it” that I stop – at that very instance and pray for it – whatever the “it” may be. Then I can feel, for the moment anyway, I have done all I can. If there is anything else I need to do – my higher power will let me know.

By: Jared

Jared — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 13:37:51 +0000

Boris,
“When we act according to our highest values, we give our best, and then, we dettach ourselves from any immediate result, stopping any worry and allowing Life to follow its own course.” Perfect! I couldn’t have said it better myself.