Last week in episode 24, Emily and I discussed communication exercises. As part of that research, I came across a list of ways to determine if you’re in a healthy relationship. In this episode we discuss these topics and what they mean to us.
How do you determine you are in a healthy relationship?
- Partners have appropriate boundaries physically and emotionally. Personal space is respected, as is alone time and relationships with important others.
- Partners are not excessively jealous. If partners don’t trust or frequently check on the other’s whereabouts, consider that you are not in a healthy dating relationship. Excessive jealousy and possessiveness can be a precursor to violence in relationships.
- Partners manage negative emotions appropriately.
- Partners take responsibility for their own actions, understanding that the quality of the relationship is up to him/her and will not blame the other for misunderstandings.
- Partners keep the lines of communication open and are willing to discuss issues that are important to the other.
- Partners seek harmony in the relationship and feel happy when good things happen to the other.
- Partners don’t expect the other to solve their problems. A good partner stands on his or her own feet.
- Partners have healthy relationships with others.
- Partners have a stable residence, telephone number, job & are working on goals.
- Partners don’t engage in provocative behavior or engage in cyber relationships.
- Partners don’t engage in excessive secrecy, frequently break plans, or refuse to be accountable for their whereabouts.
- Partners don’t engage in illicit drug use or abuse alcohol.
Resources and Related Topics from this Episode:
- Communication Exercises – “I” Statements & Active Listening and How to Determine if You Are in a Healthy Relationship (.PDF)
- Emotional Unavailability : Recognizing It, Understanding It, and Avoiding Its Trap
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