I hope you’re doing well and wish you the best of everything in life and that you find love for yourself and others.

My dad was ok till herr someone, then use to smack then snakes became punchs and mental abuse, yul go but to ya mum, I was locked in my bedroom as a baby, use to rock still do this at tes at 38.

Two kids to two different woman and a handfull of faild relarionship, I am insecure and having counciling for last 5 years nothing has helped VPN phycologist I’m now paying for it with someone who hopefully my save me

I don’t trust no one always try

“Is being happy something you learn as a child?”
I’m sure there are just as many opinions on that question as there are happy children, but I would say it certainly would help us as adults to know what happiness feels like if we were instilled with it as a child—which would translate simply to love. Both my parents drank as well, so I can relate to that somewhat; although I would have to deal with my own demons later in life and whether or not they were a result of that… well, who knows. Regardless, they’re mine to deal with now so blaming anyone only keeps me sick.

I’m not a doctor or licensed therapist, although I’ve used both extensively, and contribute my happiness to taking the steps to get the help I needed. So with that disclaimer I believe that no matter what happened to us as children, we can find happiness today.

Of course if we’re unhappy our first reaction is to start looking for causes or blaming, and our parents and childhood is a great place to start; as it may well hold the key. The only way to find out is to explore it with someone qualified to help us do so. I’m a big believer in therapy; it’s impossible to fix my flawed thinking with my own thinking… if that makes sense. Way to often our ego gets in the way when people start talking about therapy (which kept me away for a long time), but sooner or later we have to take charge for ourselves. I went to several therapists before I found one I connected with.

I recently purchased a new audio receiver for my home. I wanted to be able to listen to music inside and outside my house with some speakers I had already ran the wires for. The first few places I went to I felt like the salesman just couldn’t grasp, or wanted to understand, exactly what I was trying to do. So I kept going to different stores until I found someone that understood exactly what I was trying to accomplish, he had experience in that specific area and helped me get exactly what I was looking for!

So WHY would I not put in the same kind of dedication to helping my spirit and soul as I do with home electronics?

My problem was I went about life acting as if I was happy on the outside, while inside I was lost, confused, and consumed by fear of being rejected. It all came down to lack of real self-love. I treated myself badly; worse than I would treat a friend. I had to learn to have a healthy relationship with myself; regardless of what my parents or anyone else did or didn’t do to me. It was definitely a process and one which took several years and continues to evolve. The fact of the matter is, if we’re not happy with ourselves, no one else is going to make us happy either.

One huge obstacle I had to overcome was the reality that if I surrendered and admitted I needed help, than I had to do something about it. I was stuck between two things I hated the most; the way things were and change. I realized that I had run out of people and causes to blame for my unhappiness; which meant it was up to me and I wasn’t sure if I was willing to accept that. Accepting it meant I was actually going to have to do something about it (I can be really lazy sometimes). Plus, what happens if I don’t like what I find?

Of course the alternative is… well, more unhappiness.

If you haven’t already signed up and downloaded my free report “How To Be Happy Now,” I encourage you to do so. There’s some pretty good information in there and if you want to discuss anything further with me, my email address is in there as well.

I wish you and your wife all the best.

Jared