Comments on: Having a healthy relationship with myself http://jaredakers.com/having-a-healthy-relationship-with-myself/ Happiness for the Practical Mind Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:05:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jared http://jaredakers.com/having-a-healthy-relationship-with-myself/#comment-3077 jared Fri, 09 Dec 2011 13:21:09 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/?p=212#comment-3077 Thanks for sharing. I can relate myself to a lot of those feelings. Especially the part about not seeing the beauty in myself. I was good at hiding behind a false outward appearance of having it all together but still insecure and full of fear. I read something this morning which relates well to this: "I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become." - Carl Jung Of course just "choosing" to be happy is one step, getting there takes work. Many times, I would choose to be unhappy because I was scared that if I truly tried to be happy, that I would still fail and then I was really in trouble and left with nothing. I often suggest people do not try to get back to the "way things used to be." As in your case, thinking about the happy, friendly, outgoing girl you once were. I am confident you can be so much more! Because you will have the experience of all past combined and the ability to learn and grow from it. Best of luck to you. Thanks for sharing. I can relate myself to a lot of those feelings. Especially the part about not seeing the beauty in myself. I was good at hiding behind a false outward appearance of having it all together but still insecure and full of fear.

I read something this morning which relates well to this:

“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”
- Carl Jung

Of course just “choosing” to be happy is one step, getting there takes work. Many times, I would choose to be unhappy because I was scared that if I truly tried to be happy, that I would still fail and then I was really in trouble and left with nothing.

I often suggest people do not try to get back to the “way things used to be.” As in your case, thinking about the happy, friendly, outgoing girl you once were. I am confident you can be so much more! Because you will have the experience of all past combined and the ability to learn and grow from it. Best of luck to you.

]]> By: nobodyuknow http://jaredakers.com/having-a-healthy-relationship-with-myself/#comment-3021 nobodyuknow Wed, 07 Dec 2011 23:12:40 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/?p=212#comment-3021 This is tough. I never learned how to appreciate myself or loving myself. I have lives with fears and discomforts that others put in me. I never saw beauty in myself or my talents or appreciate my gifts to myself. I still don't know how to described myself, other than weak, limpy, hideous, horrible, inhumane. Because of all this, I suffered a long bout of depressions, suicides, and ptsd from childhood trauma. I was once a happy, friendly, outgoing girl. That was gone. This is tough. I never learned how to appreciate myself or loving myself. I have lives with fears and discomforts that others put in me. I never saw beauty in myself or my talents or appreciate my gifts to myself. I still don’t know how to described myself, other than weak, limpy, hideous, horrible, inhumane. Because of all this, I suffered a long bout of depressions, suicides, and ptsd from childhood trauma. I was once a happy, friendly, outgoing girl. That was gone.

]]> By: thriftgirl62 http://jaredakers.com/having-a-healthy-relationship-with-myself/#comment-685 thriftgirl62 Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:25:41 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/?p=212#comment-685 OKay, sO my Wild guess wasn't even mentioned there! I'm so shocked...in case you didn't see my <b><em> TWITTER reply @thriftgirl62 </em> </b>to your update ...how you can see them all is a mystery to me with the high numbers you keep. Anyway - I said to <i> Quit lying to the one person you lie to the MOST, Yourself. </i> Maybe people don't know they are lying to themselves. Let me get out of the Psycho Analyst's arena and leave this to them. I'm done!! <b> Stay Special - the World needs you!!</b> OKay,

sO my Wild guess wasn’t even mentioned there! I’m so shocked…in case you didn’t see my TWITTER reply @thriftgirl62 to your update …how you can see them all is a mystery to me with the high numbers you keep.

Anyway – I said to Quit lying to the one person you lie to the MOST, Yourself. Maybe people don’t know they are lying to themselves. Let me get out of the Psycho Analyst’s arena and leave this to them. I’m done!! Stay Special – the World needs you!!

]]> By: Positively Present http://jaredakers.com/having-a-healthy-relationship-with-myself/#comment-684 Positively Present Sun, 10 May 2009 02:34:11 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/?p=212#comment-684 These are really great suggestions! I'm definitely going to put them to use in my own life. Thanks for commenting over at PP! :) These are really great suggestions! I’m definitely going to put them to use in my own life. Thanks for commenting over at PP! :)

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